The Concept of Soulmate?!

As we grow up, we are always fed with the concept of true love or soulmate. Within the first few moments of encounter, an unknown spark erupts in our hearts. That’s how you know that he or she is the one.

But does it really exist?

 

I’ve never really thought about this before, but a fanfiction that I read recently made me think pretty hard on this issue. The main character left his fiancée (lover for almost a decade if I may add) for another girl because he felt that the new girl was his soulmate. So below is my two cents about this confusing thing. 

The concept of soulmate is saying that each and everyone of us has a lock in our heart that can only be opened by a specific lock possessed by our so called true love.  I firmly believe that this is wrong. Every time you date someone you always that he or she is the one who possesses the key. But in the end, many of those relationships fall through. I suppose, that “spark” which supposedly points to the key of your heart is really just caused by infatuation. If you genuinely love the person, why would ending the relationship even comes to mind?

Love is something that grows. Things may start from infatuation, the stage when everything about the partner looks wonderful. Then when the honeymoon period ends, all the bad habits and temperament becomes more noticeable. Those who persevered will adapt and continue the relationship. Accepting and forgiving becomes a habit. From that habit, tolerance comes. That is why many arranged marriage actually lasts until death do the couples apart.

I believe that you and I can learn to love. Maybe, the red string of fate really does exist. It’s just that  meeting the one is not as easy as clapping your hands, not as simple as feeling a spark (which may come due to the spur of the moment). Love comes with process, effort and time, sometimes sacrifice too.

Love is patient and kind;

Love does not envy or boast;

It is not arrogant or rude.

It does not insist on its own way;

It is not irritable or resentful;

It does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

I Corinthians 13 : 4-7 (ESV)

*This post is really short I know. Btw, the picture is not mine